first off jorge... this is a common problem that you will have with women. its not about empty promises or arguing and bickering back and forth. that is just stuff that fogs your vision and clouds your brain from what is really important, focus on the fact you love eachother. arguments arent the end the world, its what ppl do. she is unhappy about something in her life, you are the one she is closest to so therefore your gonna be the one those problems get takin out on. she may not be doing this on purpose its just a venting thing that females need and that we help them with. find out what the deal is dude. dont ask her just figure it out. nobody can tell you how, but where theres a will there is a way my friend. relationships are a compromise so do what she asks but make sure she meets you half way cause if not then it becomes sacrifice which imo is unessecary. if shes not willing to do that then ask yourself is she worth it. i cant tell you if she is or not. at the sametime are you an ass to her?do you treat her bad?not follow thru with plans? or are you a man she can depend on. she needs to understand you got her back no matter what. girls love that shit it makes them feel good and secure. if you really want her that bad, then you need to do all that corny shit that girls like. for instance myspace comments, a rose here and there, where a shirt she really likes, ask her for her opinion about what to wear, what she wants to eat all that bullshit... if she thinks by losing you she would be losing something she will never have again, then she wont leave. you gotta make her think your one of a kind.


also on a side note dude...in all seriousness... you gotta give her some really good sex and that should calm stuff down for a cool minute. i cant stress that enuff. its not everything to girls (so they say) but if she got eatin out and fucked so good that had to fall asleep in the positioned you left her, she WILL be happy. !pull out all the stops dude!

im going plainly off of my life experience and what ive learned from others. i dont know her but i know women.


now jason...i aint got as much to say to you but you dont need a play by play to get fucked..atleast i hope not. have you cleaned up? dont put on a show for these girls dude. your allowing them to manipulate you without even being involed with you yet. you seem alot like me homie. this is what i did 2 get my girls. i always looked clean, always smelled nice, and always had an infectiuos personality. and i didnt try hard to be the cool cat, that shit will happen naturally once you realize you can have any girl you want. when you go out make sure your happy if your in a bad mood itll ruin your game. a girl wants someone thats fun and happy. if you can put a smile on their face by only saying a couple words...your in there like swimwear. what easier than saying a few words? not saying anything. if your intimidated by a girl, dont say anything to her til she says something to you or something you know you can talk about. dont be the guy in the corner be the guy thats in the mix. thats it dude. make yourself seen and know every girl is willing to talk to you and that all you need. if you crash and burn who gives a fuck. just keep doin it and keep crashin. sooner or later u will have a sharp game and be able to talk to anyone. i know you like to drink, dont rely on alky for confidence, rely on your self.


thats my 2 cents. my girl is gone for 17 days and im bored so i thought i give you young lads some input because i been in those situations and i came out on top. hope everything werks out for you 2.

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good advice baby, you do know women! haha. GORGE--i'm not sure whats goin on with u and ur girl but if she feels like you're not coming through on things you say you'll do its going to make her feel like there's no future. Do atleast one thing she's been asking or you've been promising. even if you have to make a promise today and come through tomorrow to prove it to her that you can, then do that. girls are crazy....trust. but if you love her you gotta accept the crazy with the good. all i can say is be sweet, be honest, and be faithful and she can't resist you. good luck dude.

good advice baby, you do know women! haha. GORGE--i'm not sure whats goin on with u and ur girl but if she feels like you're not coming through on things you say you'll do its going to make her feel like there's no future. Do atleast one thing she's been asking or you've been promising. even if you have to make a promise today and come through tomorrow to prove it to her that you can, then do that. girls are crazy....trust. but if you love her you gotta accept the crazy with the good. all i can say is be sweet, be honest, and be faithful and she can't resist you. good luck dude.

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40 is a cool dude. good advice too

good advice, thanks.

but let me say that i dont have a problem with either showing affection or doing all the corny things.

i think it've always gone out of my way to make her say "awww" and then get a kiss.

she has told me that im the only guy she's ever been in love with, that im her friend, and i know that she tells me the most things out of everyone she knows. im pretty much like her shadow, not because im there to bug but because she trusts me and lets me in on things in her life.

i know the arguements are something normal and we've both came to the realization that it will always be there whether we want it or not. the problem comes in when it comes to dealing with them. and we havent really learned any skills to make it easier to deal with.

as far as being someone dependable i think i am completely. i mean, whenever we've made plans i've always been there, whenever she needed someone to talk to i've always been there, whenever we had an arguement i was always there, and i've always been there to comfort her regardless of what was going on.

when you ask if i've been an ass, i mean, im not going to lie, and there's been times where i've said or acted in ways that in retrospect i dont think are right. i've acted out of jealousy, perhaps somewhat possessive, and all of this has hurt her in the end. now i think she's probably felt tied up or as if she can't do what she wants to do in the sense of maybe not being with me some days and being with her friends, or talking to them.

i think all of those problems have added up and pushed her away little by little from me, im not sure if the love is gone on her part, which i hope is not, but i do know that she's questioned whether she should be with me or not. not because she no longer felt what she did but because she thought it might not be right to be hurt as often due to those things i said above.

i've come to a realizatoin and in retrospect know how damaging these things could be to the other person (her), and i honestly think i've been selfish by not considering the way she could feel. although i have always conciously treated her right, there have been things that havent been so "right", and have caused her pain.

she comes back on monday and im going to try to see her if she wants to see me, and then talk to her face to face. ill tell her the things ive been thinking and the things i've realized and what ill try to change. i know i've fucked up, and if i got the chance i'd do some things differently, but it's up to her to give me that chance, so im just gonna have to wait and see.

gr8 advice.

thanks bro, really

jorge your thinking way tooo much. keep it simple.


remember what i said about puttin her to sleep. it works. she'll be happy for a bit. and it will buy you some time to think about what your gonna do. do it.

jorge your thinking way tooo much. keep it simple.


remember what i said about puttin her to sleep. it works. she'll be happy for a bit. and it will buy you some time to think about what your gonna do. do it.


trust me......he's right. :grin: